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Getting started family biking

We’re relatively new to family biking. We sort of jumped straight in without reading anything or going to classes or any of the other options around town to encourage people to try it. Of course, we had a great model to follow in our friends Katie and Dave. They are two of my best friends and housemates from college, and they’ve been family biking clear since pregnancy. They even came home from the delivery in a bike cab! I’ve spent time biking with them and their kids and it helped give me the confidence to dive in.

To be fair, that confidence was a long time coming. I had some fears about biking alone, and they were amplified a bit when thinking about biking with R. I’m not really sure what got me over that. I went from biking occasionally in the summer (to and from work part time, the occasional fun ride) for the last five years to biking nearly everywhere pretty much overnight. Part of it was getting the e-assist on the cargo bike. We live on a steep hill and I always balked at having to climb back up it, even more so with a loaded bike. I think the other part of it was a growing dissatisfaction with driving.

When I was in high school and just starting to drive I loved it. I drove pretty much everywhere, even going for fun drives out on the gravel roads in the valley I grew up in. I grew up in a small rural town and the only time I went over 45 was when I went on the Interstate to go on trips.There were plentiful random pretty drives to go on, whether just cruising through the valley or driving up the mountains for a great view. I’m not sure I biked at all in high school.

College was a bit of a change. I didn’t have a car my freshman year, mostly because of the expense of parking it. I walked, bussed, or got rides everywhere. It really changed my habits. Even once I brought my car with me after I moved into a house with a driveway I still walked. Occasionally Katie and I would drive to the grocery store, if we wanted fancy food or organic produce. Otherwise we walked to the Safeway a block away. Even when I moved to the other side of campus there was a grocery store pretty much across the street. I still drove to go across the river to see friends, or out in the countryside for fun, or to go hiking and such, but it was greatly reduced. Same thing when I moved to Portland and then to Seattle for grad school. I bussed or walked most everywhere, even when living an hour away from school by bus.

When I met Lurline I slowly started biking again. My confidence was low because the drivers here are unpredictable and dangerous and I always felt like if I was to be hit I’d rather have a ton or more of steel protecting me. However, I slowly started to see that biking might actually be safer. Seattle is the 2nd safest city in the country for pedestrians and cyclists, with the second lowest overall for pedestrians and the eighth lowest overall for cyclists. By contrast, Seattle ranks 173 out of 200 when it comes to driving safety (PDF). This comes from a report published by the insurance company Allstate, which has enough customers to qualify as a reliable source of data.

As I began learning these things the combination of the awful traffic, the prospect of a million more people moving here by 2020, therefore increasing the traffic, and the relative danger of driving to biking I was sold on trading the car for the bike. It took us about a year to make the full transition, but now Lurline bikes to work 4 days a week and I run errands and take R to our activities by bike almost exclusively. It feels really good and I honestly do feel safer most days.

I thought that to end this post I’d include a few websites I found with resources for family biking. I’ll also create a page and begin adding to it as I find more. So, here you are:

7 Ways to Become a Biking Family This Spring from Seattle’s well known parenting resource site ParentMap.
G&O Family Cyclery, local bike shop that specializes in family biking, with loads of great advice at the ready, a rental fleet, and plenty of options when you are ready to make the plunge and pick a bike.
Kidical Mass! Tips for Family Biking, Seattle Style from Seattle’s Child
Familybike Seattle, non-profit that puts on a family bike expo and offers rentals of family bike setups to test (They are also normally found at www.familybike.org, but it seems to be down today.
Family Ride, a blog kept by one of the fixtures of the family biking scene here, Madi Carlson

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First game of Tetris

I have a lot of practice packing lots of things into limited space. I’ve helped pack mules for long trips in the wilderness, I’ve gone on week long backpacking trips, some car camping, and some major moves, so I felt pretty confident going on my first big errand run on a cargo bike.

The thing I was most nervous about was bringing my wife’s bike back from the shop. I’d taken it in two days ago by car so I did not yet have practice hauling another bike behind mine. Add to that that my bike is in the shop getting its gearing changed while I ride a loaner and I was worried I’d be driving back later with the car to use the bike rack.

Luckily I was able to practice attaching the touring bike to the cargo bike by using my trusty old purple Gary Fisher as a tester. It turned out to be pretty straightforward, which just left the issue of handling. I didn’t have time to take a spin with the Gary Fisher on the back, so I donve in. After years of hauling eight tons of wine grapes on a huge trailer I didn’t really think biking with an extra wheel would cause me any trouble. Indeed it didn’t. The toughest part was getting up the steep hill home. The BionX on the loaner was helpful, but my quads and lungs still felt the burn. It made me really appreciate my StokeMonkey. The load including R was probably fifty pounds, so it was a little preview of what I’ll get in a couple years when our family grows.

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Sleeping in the Rain

We’ve been riding almost everywhere lately, rain or shine. In light of the rain part, I picked up a cute rain suit for R at REI a couple weeks ago. It was literally just in time for the rain to start, since the next day it poured down. The suit doesn’t fit perfectly, as no infant clothes do, but that’s a good thing. The size it is it should last at least until late spring. I’m glad for that because I hate constantly buying clothes.

In any case, the next day we were out for R’s doctor’s appointment and the rain started. Did she fuss? No. She fell asleep. On the way there, then again on the way back. I parked the bike in the garage, pulled up a folding chair, and did some reading while she finished her nap.

Infant sleeping in rain suit on family bike.

R sleeping in her rain suit.

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The first months

I thought I might share how the first few months went with R as a newborn.

Nine months ago I was new to the stay at home dad thing. I thankfully had my wife’s help for the first three months, a welcome experience. It allowed me to ease into being home with R solo full time and really get used to caring for her. It was nice to be without the stress I was afraid I’d have doing it solo, though there was the typical new parent stress of getting used to having a completely dependent little human to care for.

During that time our routine varied. With her being a newborn it was mostly just putting her down for naps, feeding her, and changing diapers. Of course we gave her other attention too, like singing her songs or showing her toys, but sleep, food, and diapers were the primary things.

Those first three months were pretty straightforward. She had good cues for what she needed. A certain sound for food, a certain cry for sleep, and a certain cry for diaper. She was able to let us know what she needed with some facility. She even let us know when she was full of milk with a little pouty face.

At first I was waking up every time she did in the night, as was my wife. It got incredibly tiring for both of us. Finally we found a schedule that worked. We would take turns getting up, my wife breastfeeding and me giving a bottle of formula or pumped breast milk, depending on what we had. It was much less tiring (though I won’t say restful) and we were much happier in general.

Likewise, our daytime routine began to develop. R was pretty much on a schedule that she set herself, thankfully very regular. Milk every three hours, diapers as needed, sleep as needed, but clearly asked for. After my wife went back to work this made it easier to develop a typical routine. I’m very grateful for her help, and to her work for having such a generous leave policy (one month paid, up to a full trimester of leave without using FMLA), although by the standards set by other countries it was still stingy, here in the US it is great.

Another great bonus of the extended time off was that we were able to take R to meet her grandparents and great-grandparents. We spent a week visiting them in the inland PNW and they were so happy. We were happy that she traveled easily – mostly just sleeping except when she was hungry.

So, that was the first three months. Wonderful time with my wife and daughter, spent settling into caring for her and learning more and more about her personality. My wish is that someday every parent gets that experience, moms and dads alike.

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