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Ride with Kat and C

A week or two ago R and I got out on a fun ride with our friends Kat and her daughter C. It was our first time riding with them and it was a ton of fun. Fall weather hadn’t kicked in yet so we had a beautiful day out on the bike path.

I met Kat and C at their house and we headed down to the Burke-Gilman trail. We left right at naptime, but I wasn’t too concerned. R has so much fun on the bike that I wasn’t worried about her fussing and I figured she would probably take her nap at some point while riding.

We didn’t do a super long ride because of my time constraints. I wanted to be back home in time to be there when Lurline got home from work. She doesn’t get a ton of time with R during the week so I like to make sure we’re home when she is.

We headed north on the trail up to Matthews Beach Park. It’s a really pretty ride through the trees and was about the right distance for the time we had. I only do about 10 mph on my bike when I don’t use the motor and I wanted to do most of this under my own power to get some good exercise.

At that slow speed it was pretty easy to chat while riding. Kat and I got a good long conversation in while the girls enjoyed their time on the bikes (or in the trailer in C’s case). It was some of the best fun I’ve had biking since our ride to Seward Park a couple months ago. I’d like to get out on fun rides more often, and I’m really looking forward to one where I can take my regular bike instead of the cargo bike. Maybe a ride where R stays home and we can do something like ride to Redhook for lunch and a beer. Not that I don’t love riding with R, just that it would be nice to have a grownup ride sometime too.

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Equal parts rough and good

As the title implies, this week has been equal parts rough and good. The rough part was not getting out again. R and I both have a cold, so I was hesitant to go to baby storytime. She made the decision for us by having a rough naptime and then not waking up until it was too late to go. We didn’t really make it out of the house much together until yesterday.

Being cooped up was made worse by my mood. Out of nowhere I started feeling bad again about not working. I know that what I’m doing is just as important, and just as financially helpful, and most days I really feel that way. On the other hand, I’ve spent most of my adult life feeling like my work should make me money, get me a paycheck and benefits, and after many years of just squeaking by being under-employed or self-employed that feeling has taken a toll. Add to that the fact that my graduate degree has been pretty much 100% useless in getting me a decent job and I feel pretty bad about my efforts of the last 7 years. I also miss the daily interaction with co-workers or fellow students I had prior to finishing grad school. I need social time to be happy and that has been lacking during my days.

On the other hand, being a dad is the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I feel more accomplished at this than at any job I’ve ever had and the happiness I get from seeing her learn new things, play, and smile at me is unmatched by anything but my wedding day. It is rewarding in ways that no job ever could be and most days I’m really happy I’m home with her. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how to combat this feeling of needing a paycheck and having a job. What I came up with is developing new skills. I’m working really hard to get my side of the garage in order so I can set up my woodshop. My dad gave me the basis of a decent one with his old tablesaw and chopsaw. Add my hand tools, circular saw, air compressor, nailgun, and a couple other power tools I’ve picked up at yard sales and such and I can make quite a bit out there in the garage. I’m planning to build a couple bookshelves, one for R and one to replace the decades old shelf my dad built for my childhood home that has, over 25 or so years, started to come apart. I have a pretty extensive collection of books and I really don’t want the shelf to collapse and potentially damage them.

I’m also trying to figure out how I could take another winemaking class at South Seattle College. I’m feeling more and more like I want to go back to the wine industry when I go back to work, so working through their certificate program and then doing WSU’s distance program would be really helpful in finding a job. Plus, it would help me make better wine at home, something I really love doing. I could also start drawing and painting again. I found out the community center nearby has a pottery studio and I’d like to start using that. There are a lot of options to fill the spare time I have – perhaps too many. I just need to pick one and start doing it.

Now to the good parts of the week. Obviously having my dad here Monday morning was pretty great. Wednesday night there was another Sounders game, this one the knockout round for the playoffs. I took my friend Brett with me and we watched the team finally beat LA! It was an awesome game, probably the best I’ve seen all season, and I left feeling pretty good.

Thursday morning I went down to Fremont for a morning appointment and decided to try and experiment. I took the baby carrier with me and when I was done with my appointment I put R on and wore her. It was naptime just then and my hope was she would fall asleep in the carrier and I could do something for myself. And she did! It was pretty wonderful. I went to Pie and enjoyed a breakfast pie and cup of coffee without having to entertain R the whole time. It was probably the most relaxing morning I’ve had in weeks. I had hoped to swing by the bookstore to get the sequel to the book I’ve been reading, but unfortunately they weren’t open yet after I finished my time at Pie. R was just waking up and though she looked pretty chill I was hesitant to hang around the neighborhood too long in case she had a breakdown. Biking with a screaming baby did not sound appealing.

That afternoon I had lined up a babysitter, the idea being to go to a boardgame convention I registered for, but the cold was really getting me, so I opted in stead to lie in bed and read. I finished my book and got some good rest in. By evening I was ready to press wine with David and Jamie. We managed to get everything done in about 2.5 hours, and it would have been faster if we had realized sooner that the ratchet system needed to be cleaned up to work properly. Once we did that we flew through the rest of the grapes. It was a fun evening and really nice to be social with friends.

Today has started pretty well as well. R was happy in her crib a bit longer than usual and when she did start making noises for me she calmed right down when I picked her up. She played for a bit and then it was breakfast time. We missed Kindermusik because she clearly needed her nap before we could leave. Plus, she’s still sniffling and sneezing and I was worried about getting the little 3 or 4 month old in the class sick. We’ll do a make-up next week I hope and still get our Kindermusic time in. I’m planning to bike to the library to pick up a book on hold and pick up some coffee beans while we’re out. If we have time I’ll head to the frame shop with the photos of R we’ve been meaning to frame for months now. Sometimes even errands help the day feel better. Tonight I’ll head to the East Side for the convention and I think the day will end pretty well.

I’m looking forward to the weekend. The convention continues through Sunday and Sunday night the Sounders are in the semi-finals. I’m taking my friend Kat and she’s always a fun companion for the games.

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Visit from Daddo

When my sister and I were little we called our dad “Daddo”, until my sister Caitlin heard someone say the word daddio, then of course it switched for her. She was always doing things like that, finding funny little things to say. When the show Murphy Brown was on TV, even though we never watched it, she decided that would be a fun thing to call me. I love my sister.

We’ve asked the various grandparents what they want to be called. For the first several months the grandpas were just “Grandpa”, but when we visited my dad this summer the idea of Daddo came up and it kind of stuck. So, now instead of Grandpa, we’ve started calling him Daddo for short.

In any case, he visited over the weekend. It was a great visit, not just for seeing him, but for R to get some good time in with her Daddo, and for us to get a custom baby gate for the top of the stairs. I had sent him measurements awhile back and he built this beautiful gate that sits on hinges and has a clever latch. It has made going up and down the stairs so much easier. We can easily keep R off them when we’re up here and no longer have to completely pick up and move the gate. It has a magnetic catch so that when it’s open it won’t swing closed so we can easily know when it’s open. It’s pretty great.

Dad and I also got some good time in one-on-one. There was a Sounders game on Sunday, a big game deciding whether they made it into the playoffs or not. I had two tickets so he came along. It was his first pro game since the Portland Timbers had their inaugural season in the 70s, so that was pretty cool to share with him. It also had some of the most exciting soccer I’ve seen all season. The LA playoff game Wednesday night rated just as high, so maybe the season is finally picking up. In any case, the game was a blast and it was fun to share with my dad.

Dad was also helpful getting some stuff done around the place. He’s starting an antique business and took a couple pieces away that we didn’t want any more and helped move the chair that’s going into R’s room for us to sit in while we read to her and do bedtime. In all it was a really wonderful visit. He got great time in with the whole family and we got a hand with some stuff we’d been needing to do for a while.

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Getting out

Lately it’s been difficult to get out of the house with R, and by lately I mean basically since she started eating solid food. It was worst in the beginning. Meal time would take an hour to an hour-and-a-half, so that accounted for much of her awake time. It was made even worse when she would wake up from her nap and be contently playing in her crib. I want to promote independent play, so I leave her in her room when she does that. Sometimes that lasts for nearly an hour, so between that and mealtime it meant she was only awake and able to do something fun for 30-60 minutes. Very hard.

Here time spent awake while not eating or playing in her crib post-nap is increasing. Meal time has decreased to 30-45 minutes, leaving more like 1-2 hours to get out. Somehow, though, that always seems to disappear. Either I need to keep getting things done that I couldn’t finish while she naps, or she gets fussy or needs a bottle.

My goal this week is to get out at least once during the day, even if it’s in the afternoon. Ideally it would be mid-day to break up the time spent inside the house a bit more, so I plan to start at least taking a 30 minute bike ride. She loves being on the bike, I love being on the bike, and it generally makes both of us feel good.

I would also like to start getting together with some of the stay-at-home dads on the Facebook and Meetup groups I’m part of. It seems like every time someone posts an event, though, it’s right at or very near naptime. It’s a little frustrating. I need to start planning outings myself and invite people and hopefully that will fix this problem. I’m really craving interaction with other adults who are not my wife, so this would be great.

Hopefully this week sees R and me out of the house a little more. We do have swim lessons one evening a week, so at least there is that, but that’s mostly just playing in the water with the kiddos. Fun, but not really interactive in an adult way.

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Wine!

Last year I convinced my friends David and Jamie to go in on some grapes with me to make wine. Well, “some” might be an understatement. We purchased 250 pounds of Sangiovese, enough to make roughly 18 gallons of wine. Or, in other words, six and a half cases. It was a really fun process. Lots of work up front and at the end, with some check ins throughout the year.

We decided to do it again this year, but this time increase our production. We knew we wanted to make something else, and probably do two different varietals this year, both for variety and so we could do some blending. So, I contacted the wine maker we purchased our grapes from last year and ordered, well, 600 pounds of grapes! We opted for 300 of Malbec and 300 of Cabernet Sauvignon. So, last week the Malbec came in and we got started.

Wine making is pretty straightforward. You crush the grapes (done for us by the winemaker), add yeast, stir them periodically, then press the juice out. After what’s called the primary fermentation (the conversion of sugar to alcohol by yeast) is finished, you do a secondary fermentation using bacteria to convert malic acid to lactic acid (called malolactic fermentation, or, in the wine world, ML). Then, it’s just aging. Red wine is typically aged for a year or more on oak. We don’t have space for a barrel, so instead we use glass bottles called carboys with chunks of oak added in.

Why oak you ask? Well, twofold. For one, it adds complexity of flavor. Oak from different parts of the world adds different characteristics to the wine. American oak, for example, adds hints of vanilla, and Hungarian oak adds peppery flavors. In addition, aging in oak increases the tannins in wine, a key component for longevity. Tannins are what cause that dry sensation on your pallet when drinking a red wine and are key to keeping wine good over the years. (Incidentally, in beer making, hops add the tannins, and India Pale Ale – IPA – was originally created to have high tannins so it stayed fresh during the long shipment from Great Britain to their colonies in India, thus the extreme hoppiness.)

In any case, enough about the process. Last month we decided to bottle our Sangiovese in order to make room for the 2015 vintage coming in. It took most of an afternoon, siphoning the wine out of the carboys into the bottles, spraying a small amount of argon and nitrogen into the top (to displace the oxygen so the wine lasts longer), and corking the bottles. It may sound like a lot of work, and it is, but it is also a lot of fun. In the end we had enough wine that we’ll each take home two and a half cases and all we need to do now is label it.

Bottling homemade Sangiovese

Bottling the Sangiovese

Shortly after we bottled the Malbec came in. I picked it up from Woodinville in two food grade plastic garbage cans and David came and helped me unload it. He had to run to beat traffic home and Jamie wasn’t able to make it, so it was up to me to pitch the yeast. It’s a bit of a process to pitch yeast. You have to heat water to a certain temperature, add nutrients, let it cool for a bit, add the yeast, let it activate, add some of the grape juice, let it cool some more. This is all to acclimate the yeast to its new environment so it doesn’t get shocked and go dormant. In all it took me probably two hours to get the yeast ready and pitched (winemakers call it “pitching yeast”, although I don’t know the origins of that phrase). Then it was just a matter of time.

On this last Sunday we pressed the grapes. Last year we had waited until the primary fermentation was complete before pressing. That meant we had to do it on the wine’s schedule and we were pressing one weeknight until almost 10pm. Waiting is common practice, but not 100% necessary. If you have the color and flavor you want earlier it is perfectly reasonable to press and let the primary finish in tank (or in our case, carboys). So this year we opted to do things on our schedule. The color was already looking beautiful due to some enzymes added during the crush that increased color extraction, and the flavor was nice as well. I can tell you, crushing during the day is much more pleasant than late at night in the cool fall evening.

So, now that we have the grapes crushed there is around 21 gallons of Malbec bubbling away in my basement. In about another week it will be ready for ML and we’ll be well on our way to our 2015 vintage. In the meantime the Cabernet should come in and we’ll do it all over again. Like I said, a lot of work, but also a lot of fun.

Malbec wine in carboy, home winemaking

Almost done. That’s 19 of the 21 gallons bubbling away.

Malbec wine grapes ready to be pressed

Malbec ready to be pressed

Baby checking out the pressing of wine grapes

R checks out the grapes ready to be pressed. She was enthralled by the process.

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